Thoughts — Relationships

I believe that we are all inherently good people, and we just make mistakes from time to time - but wait, hear me out - we ultimately reach a point where we learn what was right for us, even if it wasn't what we needed in that unfortunate moment. Now, for some background context, I am surrounded by mostly emotionally mature people and they do leave me in awe most of the time. Yes, I know, I have very healthy friends who are inherently kind.  The point of this wasnt to brag, but if I do have to, I can...

I’ve  always had a lot of friends - I know this might sound a little boastful but well, it’s true. I believe I am an extrovert and being around people makes me happy. My weekends have always been full and I wouldn’t have it any other way But having spent years around my (several) social circles, there’s always been a thought that’s bothered me, something I think about even now : I never fight with my friends. If (and when) I do, it always ends up being blown out of proportion. I’ve realised I alway rationalised my anger by telling...

I’m pregnant. Take a moment and let that sink in, I would understand it if it takes you a while, it took me a few months to fully absorb this reality. Now, unlike most 30 year olds, this was not planned (which explains my rather slow processing). The two red lines on the home pregnancy test made certain that my drop in energy levels, excessive sleep, and brain fog was indeed biological and not psychological. Honestly, you would think 33 year olds would be sensible enough to practice “safe sex” but lust, love and other such things… can make the...

“I trust you.” We know that these are important words that are laced with a lot of emotion. In fact, these exact words can make or break relationships, organisations, countries and sometimes, even governments. As you can tell, the impact of trust (or distrust) can be monumental.  Okay, you get it. These three words can mean a lot but what do they actually mean? Now that might seem difficult to articulate. Whenever something is difficult to explain, I look at how a child would best describe it. So I went ahead and did just that. I asked a few kids...

As a perpetually single person, everyone around me (and my spookily curated feed) has constantly told me one thing: I need to love myself first. In fact, they sometimes push it to a more brazen ‘Don't care about what others are saying, be your own person.’ (but that’s also supplemented with a quick ‘love will find you when you least expect it’. Yeah, I know it’s a paradox.) While a part of me always thought this was at least 60% BS, an instance from Bojack Horseman hit the mark dead centre. In the scene, Mr Peanutbutter is talking to his...