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Anxiety
Gaslighting Isn't in Your Head—It's in the Pattern
Gaslighting isn’t in your head—it’s in the pattern. This article explores how gaslighting erodes self-trust, how trauma bonds keep you stuck, and why healing...
Anxiety
The Truth Behind Break-Up Biases How to Process Breakups Without the Mental Tricks
Breakups are hard. But often, what makes them worse is the way we remember. This blog explores two psychological biases—rosy retrospection and hindsight bias—that...
attachment
Deconstructing Trauma Bonds: Understanding Why Smart People Stay in Bad Relationships
Trauma bonding isn’t about shared trauma—it’s about confusion disguised as love. This post explores how emotional highs and lows trap us in cycles of...
Adult Friendships
You’re Social, But Still Lonely: Why Adult Friendships Don’t Always Fill the Void
You can be loved, even liked—and still feel lonely. This post explores why being social isn’t the same as being seen, and what we’re...
dating
Ghosting to Guessing: Why We Stay in Uncertain Relationships
Ghosting, icing, and simmering are modern dating behaviors that reflect a lack of direct communication, leading to ambiguous relationships. These strategies cause emotional pain,...
Healthy Relationships
Moving for Love, Losing Yourself—and Finding You Again
When Priya moved to Mumbai for her husband’s job, she didn’t expect to feel so lost. But loneliness, identity shifts, and new beginnings came...
Attachment Theory
Yes, Betrayal is Real: The Psychological Trauma You Probably Don't Even Know You're Dealing With
Betrayal trauma is what happens when the person you trusted most breaks the ground under your feet. This piece unpacks how infidelity and broken...
Relationships
The Truth About Why The Festive Season Makes You Feel All Those Feelings-collective loneliness
Festivities: joy for some, but for many, "collective loneliness." City life weakens traditional connections, leaving people feeling adrift. This isolation harms mental health. Religion...
acceptance
#ThoughtQuo: Why Adult Friendships Require So Much Work
Childhood BFFs? College buddies? #AdultFriendships face a different reality. Responsibilities pull us apart, schedules clash, and distance grows. My "adulting" phase made me neglect...
acceptance
#ThoughtQuo: Do I Have Internalised Fatphobia? |Moving to Body Positivity|
Tired of comments about your body? This excerpt explores body positivity. The author describes how unwanted remarks triggered shame and a negative self-image. They...
Adulting
#Opinion: I Watched Kal Ho Na Ho As A Therapist And Had A Lot Of Thoughts
As a therapist, watching Kal Ho Naa Ho in 2023 felt less nostalgic and more like a case study in toxic relationships. This piece...