Thoughts — Relationships

Today I find the word communication being thrown around a lot. Especially when it comes to close relationships. Do I believe it's important .. yes? Is it always effective … maybe? Let me try and help you understand where I am coming from.  Communication, especially when it comes to expression, is extremely important; I 100% believe that no one can read your mind. Sometimes when we try to communicate our needs, it helps us express and understand ourselves better and even have clarity of what is happening. Hence, as a strong believer in therapy, it helps in expressing yourselves, which...

#BoycottAlia was trending on Thursday, and while the page loaded I wondered if it was because the conservatives guessed she was pregnant out of wedlock (honestly who cares!) but Twitterverse - which never fails to surprise - had decided to boycott her because she humorously talked about abuse towards men in her movie Darlings.  Like Badru, Alia’s character in Darlings, we all enter a relationship, especially a marriage, with the belief that we will love, be loved, care and be cared for. The abstract concept of “love” is what gives us courage to take risks, step out of our comfort...

“I can save her!” “He will change himself for me!” “They are a better person when they are with me!” Have you ever come across quotes, posts, and even people (IRL) who quote and more importantly, believe in such statements?  Personally, I find it very funny because life is tough as is the responsibility of turning myself into a fully functioning adult (which is…. exhausting to say the least), but like they say, you gotta do what you gotta do. Which is why it confuses me; why would anyone in their right mind want to take on this added responsibility...

I believe that we are all inherently good people, and we just make mistakes from time to time - but wait, hear me out - we ultimately reach a point where we learn what was right for us, even if it wasn't what we needed in that unfortunate moment. Now, for some background context, I am surrounded by mostly emotionally mature people and they do leave me in awe most of the time. Yes, I know, I have very healthy friends who are inherently kind.  The point of this wasnt to brag, but if I do have to, I can...

I’ve  always had a lot of friends - I know this might sound a little boastful but well, it’s true. I believe I am an extrovert and being around people makes me happy. My weekends have always been full and I wouldn’t have it any other way But having spent years around my (several) social circles, there’s always been a thought that’s bothered me, something I think about even now : I never fight with my friends. If (and when) I do, it always ends up being blown out of proportion. I’ve realised I alway rationalised my anger by telling...