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The Self in Self-Love Needs To Come With A Disclaimer

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The Self in Self-Love Needs To Come With A Disclaimer

I see the term self-love doing its rounds on social media and advertisements, in fact, it’s everywhere around us. It’s telling me that if I loved myself I would get myself that new face-mask, or buy that fancy car, or maybe go on that vacation everyone’s been harping about. See, we know it is important to care for ourselves. But does self-love only mean buying myself things? Is spending money proof that I love myself? Who am I proving it to? I’m sorry, but it makes self-love seem like a lot of pressure and almost like a competition.  I’ve heard...

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What 'Darlings' Teaches Us About Abuse

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What 'Darlings' Teaches Us About Abuse

#BoycottAlia was trending on Thursday, and while the page loaded I wondered if it was because the conservatives guessed she was pregnant out of wedlock (honestly who cares!) but Twitterverse - which never fails to surprise - had decided to boycott her because she humorously talked about abuse towards men in her movie Darlings.  Like Badru, Alia’s character in Darlings, we all enter a relationship, especially a marriage, with the belief that we will love, be loved, care and be cared for. The abstract concept of “love” is what gives us courage to take risks, step out of our comfort...

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Mental Vacations Are Okay - The Spectrum of Daydreaming and Dissociation

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Mental Vacations Are Okay - The Spectrum of Daydreaming and Dissociation

‘Dissociation’ seems like a scary word, no?  Have you ever found yourself zoning out in a car, train or a lecture? Felt like you’ve forgotten chunks of your day or your past? It's something all of us have experienced at some point in our lives. While the term seems very clinical and can also scare us sometimes, it's important for our brain to take mental breaks and just reset sometimes.  Oftentimes, dissociation can be experienced on a spectrum, and it can range from simply daydreaming to occasionally forgetting a traumatic incident. We often observe our bodies and our minds needing...

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Why Has Nobody Told Me (About) This (Book) Before?

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Why Has Nobody Told Me (About) This (Book) Before?

If you follow mental health social media accounts I’m certain you have stumbled on content by Julie Smith, her humour and humanness makes her bite sized tips easy to implement. But this is not a pitch to follow her on social media, although I strongly recommend you do, this is to introduce to you her book “Why has nobody told me this before?” I approached her book with scepticism, like I would for most self-care/help books, doubts on its relevance and practicality swept through my mind. Is this going to be another preachy book? Is the answer to everything going...

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What You Need To Do When You Feel Blah

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What You Need To Do When You Feel Blah

Have you ever felt blah, whatever, not particularly sad but not happy either? Ever had moments where you stay in bed all day scrolling on your phone, binge watching shows, not particularly motivated or excited to do anything else? Had that thought where it feels like you're living the same day over and over again? It seems like you’re getting by at work but are more distractible than before? Always end up feeling listless and joyless but yet you are certain that you are not depressed because you still have energy? If you answered in the affirmative to even one...

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