Thoughts

Why do we run towards red flags?

Hello From The Thought Co.

Why do we run towards red flags?

“Why do I always get attracted to the wrong kind of people?” “Why am I into toxic partners?” How many of us have heard this or even said it to ourselves?  So many of us find ourselves attracted to this 'bad boy' energy or personality in life. In fact, we may see ourselves come out of one abusive/toxic relationship, just to get caught up in a loop of the same kind of relationship all over again. Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us.   This isn't something that may just be a fault of our own, but it’s...

Read more →


Goodness = Deserving good

Hello From The Thought Co. Emotions Mental Health Awareness Society

Goodness = Deserving good

The one fun part of therapy is the conversations and discussions that come up. Recently, I had a lovely conversation with a client. They proposed the question of if we are good then don’t we all deserve good things. And this isn’t the first time I have heard this question but it is the one question that I do get asked the most. And it is one of my favourite questions, mostly because there is no right answer and it revolves around perspective and thought.  Let me break my thoughts down for you. I do believe that we are all...

Read more →


Being Ordinary

Hello From The Thought Co.

Being Ordinary

Ever since we were little, we’ve been ingrained with the idea that we have to be a cut above the rest, be special, and most importantly, that we should stand out. The messaging says that we have to be better than everyone or else, we would be a disaster and not worthy. Our world puts being ‘extraordinary’ and ‘competitive’ at a pinnacle.  It is entrenched in us that being ordinary is the absolute worst thing that could be. It is a disappointment to ourselves and the people around us. I wonder how being ordinary like the rest of humankind became...

Read more →


Looking For Un-meaningfulness

Hello From The Thought Co. Beliefs Opinion Self Help

Looking For Un-meaningfulness

I did a stupid thing recently - I decided I needed a break from meaningful relationships in my life. Yup, it felt as dumb as it sounds. But I still think I did it for all the right reasons. You see, society said I need to have meaningful relationships as I grow up, so I went ahead and made quite a few of them over time. But for a very long while now, I have felt weirdly hollow; like I was missing something, I almost felt uncomfortable in my own skin. And after quite a few days of thinking, I...

Read more →


Why Didn't You Leave?

Hello From The Thought Co.

Why Didn't You Leave?

What goes on within a person being abused (and between them and the abuser) is complex and different people have different ways of dealing with it. While some individuals can hold the fort and are quite clear that what they are experiencing is abuse, many of us have to wade through a lot of internal ambiguity/ denial before we let ourselves recognize what is going on. Sometimes, a lot of people may not do so until the situation has played itself out to such an extent that it is detrimental to their mental and physical well being.  Especially in the...

Read more →