Thoughts

All of us have a shared goal to be happy in life! But what does that even mean? I am going to try to make this less of an English lesson… but bear with me. Everyone you ask will tell you that their goal in life is to be ‘happy’ and that being said, it comes with a lot of conditions. Living in a world that loves the idea of black and white, good and bad, yes and no, the space for grey is almost non-existent. In therapy, I get a lot of clients who specifically tell me how they’re...

Have you ever listened to your body? Have you ever experienced that feeling where you’ve been working non-stop, haven’t gotten one weekend to yourself or even a few hours to sit back, relax and stop your mind from running? That feeling for me is feeling like I’m out of my body; I'm functioning, yes, and getting the task done, but it's as if I'm not in control.  You feel your body hurt, and you recognize you need rest, but some part of you (maybe it's guilt, maybe it's compulsion) wants to keep going on.  Have you ever asked yourself why?...

Here’s a fun fact for January. We are social beings and the reason our species has survived is because of our ability to band in groups and form connections. Forming these connections means occupying space in someone else's life and letting someone else occupy space in yours. It comes with us experiencing a wide range of emotions in relationships - from unbridled happiness all the way to gut-wrenching disappointment - while also allowing others to be concerned about you and caring for you and vice versa. Quite the spectrum, isn’t it? There is a common belief that when one shows...

As people, we love looking forward to things. Always living with the hope that things will get more exciting and better…one day. As a kid, I always idealised being grown up. It was a way to imagine all the independence I would end up having when I was a fully-functioning adult. But I don't think I realised that you just don't become an adult overnight.  It's more gradual and a lot less glamorous. I remember when all I wanted to do was grow up. It started with the smaller things - like wanting to wear the ‘cooler (read: less baby)...

“Why do I always get attracted to the wrong kind of people?” “Why am I into toxic partners?” How many of us have heard this or even said it to ourselves?  So many of us find ourselves attracted to this 'bad boy' energy or personality in life. In fact, we may see ourselves come out of one abusive/toxic relationship, just to get caught up in a loop of the same kind of relationship all over again. Don’t worry, it happens to the best of us.   This isn't something that may just be a fault of our own, but it’s...