Thoughts

Nobody likes feeling disconnected, whether it’s from our friends, family, money, the news or even the most recent Instagram reels. Our cellphones are mediums that connect us to these things; the world is now literally in our palms. And this feeling of being connected, being in the now and of being everywhere all at once can be empowering, but sometimes, even addictive. When its presence becomes addictive, its absence creates anxiety…And this is exactly what NoMoPhobia is

  (Trigger warning: mentions abuse; suicide; substance abuse) Patriarchy is a societal system that puts men in a position of power and women in a weaker position, to add to it, it does not consider the fact that various other gender identities exist. It goes without saying that this sort of a society puts a lot of mental and emotional pressure on anyone who does not identify as a man. It further forms a rigid dichotomy of gender roles which are hard to break.  However, in this blog, I want to look at a side of the story that is...

The minute we were born, our need for food, comfort and safety were catered for, making us completely dependent on our caregivers for survival. In fact, right from the beginning (even in utero!), we’ve been nurtured by our caregivers. Attachment is the emotional bond we share with another human. This bond is the foundation of our emotional health; and it lays the groundwork for all the valuable relationships in our life. John Bowlby developed ‘The Attachment Theory’, which traces the trial and tribulations of our adult relationships to the earliest experience of care. Bowlby said that children need to be...

This blog mentions suicide and homophobia which can be triggering. Having struggled with my mental health since the past 4-5 years, I finally took that leap and started reading blogs and following all the essential accounts in late 2020. This was the same time I started opening up to people about my issues. The first person I opened up to was my cousin – who I’ve always looked up to as an older sister. I’d be struggling with suicidal thoughts, and after two attempts, she found out. When she realised that she couldn’t convince me otherwise, she told our older...

Since childhood, I observed that the only  accepted and “normalised” form of romantic relationship was between two “heterosexuals”. As a teenager, I always felt like I was attracted to only men, but there were times when I felt this strange attraction towards women. Strange because, during that time I was not at all aware that sexuality is a spectrum and that it’s completely normal to be attracted to more than one gender.  Eventually I realised  that it was just  something that was taught to me. However, being attracted to women confused me. In the past one year, I have explored...