Thoughts — Learning

Quite often I’ve been told by my friends to get out and travel, and (because I have other priorities or a small budget) I would internally roll my eyes and think something along the spectrum of “I got this”, “I don't need to”, to a more wholesome “I doubt travelling would give me anything more than I need”.  I also developed an annoyance towards the repeated mention of travelling (more so, solo travelling) which is quite the trend on social media and dating profiles, to the point where they incessantly use hashtags along the lines of #travelbug #wanderlust that lead...

We’ve all been on social media long enough to know that restaurants with a bunch of influencers promoting it only have their 5 star ratings because of their pastel colours and fancy cutlery. Food? I could make that pasta at home. Likewise, products flaunted by fancy fashion influencers apparently only work wonders on their skin, not ours. And let me not even begin with the new clothing brands on Instagram, they always leave me overwhelmed. Yes, I want it but will it really look as good on me as it looks on that ‘one’ influencer who also seems appealing in...

Having worked as a therapist in different settings and with a diverse population, I’ve had a lot of exposure when it comes to understanding myself and my professional self. However, are these two any different?  When I first started off in the field, it was very intimidating. We are always told to compartmentalise and that one can't intersect with the other. But now, when I think back about this aspect, I am in flux. Sure, boundaries are important because they help maintain the professionalism of the space, but does that mean we are (supposed to be) two different people?  Practising...

#BoycottAlia was trending on Thursday, and while the page loaded I wondered if it was because the conservatives guessed she was pregnant out of wedlock (honestly who cares!) but Twitterverse - which never fails to surprise - had decided to boycott her because she humorously talked about abuse towards men in her movie Darlings.  Like Badru, Alia’s character in Darlings, we all enter a relationship, especially a marriage, with the belief that we will love, be loved, care and be cared for. The abstract concept of “love” is what gives us courage to take risks, step out of our comfort...

Have you ever felt blah, whatever, not particularly sad but not happy either? Ever had moments where you stay in bed all day scrolling on your phone, binge watching shows, not particularly motivated or excited to do anything else? Had that thought where it feels like you're living the same day over and over again? It seems like you’re getting by at work but are more distractible than before? Always end up feeling listless and joyless but yet you are certain that you are not depressed because you still have energy? If you answered in the affirmative to even one...