Thoughts — Therapy
The Therapist Stereotype on Television: Bag It or Flag It?
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Our careers have always formed some part of our identity. In fact, we often introduce ourselves to new people telling them what we do (“I am a psychologist/doctor/financial advisor/artists/teacher/etc.”), and honestly speaking, it’s something I find a lot of joy in - I love engaging with people’s perception of my job. That is after we have gone through the checklist of what a psychologist is not, i.e. a psychic, a mind reader, a judge, or an absolver. Often, people get antsy around me to the point where they (rather defensively) hurl statements that cover the full spectrum of “don't psychoanalyse...
My Therapist Ruined Therapy For Me: How Can I Move On?
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Finding the perfect therapist is like finding the missing piece of a puzzle. And for that, we may have to go through a few misfitting pieces to find the one that is just right. The number of times I've noticed red flags from peoples’ stories about their therapists is something I cannot even keep tabs on anymore! For a lot of people, to gain the courage to even start therapy is a huge deal! Therapists hold this kind of privilege where what they say is like a bible for the client. The hurt that a therapist can cause to the...
(Un)popular Opinion: Never Have I Ever… Cheated!
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I am in the midst of a month-long Netflix binge. My current indulgence is the second season of Never Have I Ever (disclaimer: this post is unlikely to be a spoiler because the season came out many moons ago.) Devi dates both Ben and Paxton, thus cheating on both boys. As predicted, when they eventually find out about the “betrayal”, both boys are upset, as most people would be, and make her “pay” for it. This got me thinking, as do most conversations about infidelity, what makes infidelity hurt so much? Does revenge really make up for pain? Conversations with...
What Your Boredom Is Trying To Tell You
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Have you ever stared at the ceiling for what might seem like hours on end or not know what to do with yourself on a particularly dry Sunday? It seems like you're clearly bored. We’ve all experienced it. So what is boredom, really? Boredom describes wanting to do something stimulating, satisfying, fulfilling or purposeful but not being able to do so. Boredom is a considerable bother. It can lead to behaviours that might lead to favourable (e.g. creativity) and unfavourable consequences (e.g. substance abuse). In a preliminary study, researchers asked people to sit down in a laboratory and try to...
Why Every Professional Needs To Be A Person Too
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Having worked as a therapist in different settings and with a diverse population, I’ve had a lot of exposure when it comes to understanding myself and my professional self. However, are these two any different? When I first started off in the field, it was very intimidating. We are always told to compartmentalise and that one can't intersect with the other. But now, when I think back about this aspect, I am in flux. Sure, boundaries are important because they help maintain the professionalism of the space, but does that mean we are (supposed to be) two different people? Practising...