Over Explaining All The Time? Caution: This May Be A Trauma Response!

Ever feel the urge to over-explain yourself, even for minor things? This gush of justification might stem from past trauma. Imagine a childhood where every action required explanation to avoid punishment. These experiences can leave scars, making you feel like you constantly need to explain yourself to regain control or prevent rejection. Therapy can help unearth these underlying anxieties and equip you with better communication skills. So ditch the word vomit and focus on the key message. You are worthy, even with unanswered questions.

Mar 18, 2024 1 min read
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Why You Over-Explain (And How to Stop)

Why You Over-Explain (And How to Stop)

Excerpt: Over-explaining can feel harmless, even polite. But it often masks deeper anxiety or trauma. Here's why we do it—and how to express yourself clearly, without apology.

Now, let’s be honest—haven’t we all been there?

You open your inbox to a message titled, “Hey, just checking in on that blog post!” Suddenly, your chest tightens. Your brain kicks into overdrive: “Did I forget? Did they think I blew them off? Do they think I’m rude... or lazy… or worse—both?” Before you know it, you’ve drafted a multi-paragraph explanation of your hectic month. It’s a supremely hectic email.

This is what over-explaining feels like: a chaotic scramble to justify yourself,

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