Breakups are tough, but they can be downright brutal (and even more complicated) when you have to see your ex at work every day. As if surviving the workplace wasn’t enough, now you’ve entered an emotional minefield. What do you do next? Quit the job? Call in sick? Pretend they don’t exist? Block them on the company email?
Before we dig in, remember that it's completely understandable if you're feeling anxious or upset about the aftermath, but know that you're not alone. In fact, here’s something that might cheer you up: many people have been in your shoes and have found ways to cope and move forward - while making sure they keep their dignity intact! How so?
Thankfully, we’ve got a few tips to deal with a breakup when you have to continue working with someone even after you’ve called it quits on your relationship:
Set boundaries: It's important to establish boundaries between you and your ex in the workplace. This could mean not interacting with them outside of work-related matters, avoiding personal conversations, or even requesting to switch departments or teams if necessary. A quick email to Hr can help take you a long way!
Stay professional: While it may be tempting to vent to coworkers about the breakup or even lash out at your ex, it's important to remain professional in the workplace. Avoid gossiping about the situation and focus on your work instead. You’ll only thank yourself later!
Take care of yourself: Breakups can take a toll on your mental and emotional well-being, but it's important to take care of yourself. Make time for self-care activities like exercise, therapy, or spending time with friends and family outside of work.
Communicate with your ex: If you feel uncomfortable or need to address a work-related issue with your ex, it's important to communicate in a civil and professional manner. Avoid letting emotions get in the way and focus on finding a solution that works for both of you.
Seek support: Going through a breakup is not the easiest thing to tick off a to-do list, but you don't have to go through it alone. Consider reaching out to a therapist, seeking support from coworkers or friends, or even joining a support group to help you cope. Repeat after us: asking for help does not make you seem (emotionally) weak!
Remember that healing takes time, and it's okay to take things one day at a time. Take care and know that you are capable of navigating this difficult situation! With the right tools and support, you can find a way to move forward and thrive in your workplace.
Meet The Author
Priyanka believes emotional and mental health care are at the very core of us experiencing happiness in our life. Her qualifications include a Masters in Clinical Psychology and in Counselling and Psychotherapy. Priyanka enjoys working with young adults and understanding life as it changes with intrusions like the internet and the pandemic. Above everything else her true love is homemade chocolate cake.